"To decide is to make peace within and let the chips fall where they may."
~Lisa Tabak
Cuenca, Ecuador
Special coffee, alone, at Sajsana and time to avoid thinking
or doing much. Boredom and depression. Seems like now I'm just biding time to
get home. Although home will not be better. Gray days both and cold versus
warm.
After a FaceTime with Mom yesterday and today, I have
adjusted various flights and reservations in order to go home this week. I
leave Monday and arrive Tuesday afternoon. (My flight is actually five past
midnight in Tuesday morning and with layovers it will take the two days).
Mom is wearing down. Over a week in the hospital now. Heart and back issues, and
pneumonia. She puts a strong face on when I video-call, but I can
tell. Around her eyes are red-purple and sunken. She's dehydrated,
terribly bruised where testing is done, she is not sleeping, eating or drinking
fluids much at all. She doesn't get up except to the bathroom with nurses
help and she refuses OT. My brothers say she is ok and shares that the
medical staff considers that she is improving, but my observations and my intuitions
convey otherwise.
I'm going home. A month early, yes … but going.
Actually once I had arrived here in Ecuador I wasn't excited
anyway. I usually am very eager
when I travel. It is not where I really wanted to be. I have been
here and it is fine, yes .. but if someone is looking for lots of sun and
warmth, it is not here in these beautiful mountains. This is a nice, temperate spot,
fairly clean and convenient for a small South American city with
wonderful variety .. but .. it is not my spot for now.
My plans had been firm to visit the Pacific beach at Puerto
Lopez for a week, then the my host family (from my teens) in Guayaquil - for
what would have been probably my final visit with the mother who is 88 - but
that is changed now. I need to get home to my own mother. I am
procrastinating telling my host sister because I know they will try to talk me
into a quick visit before I leave. It would be too rushed and complicated. No,
gracias, no puedo ya.
Besides the consideration of my mother’s situation, I am
intuiting big changes this coming year. My grandson growing so fast, my
daughter moving out of state, my granddaughter flourishing and in school now,
my parents slipping away slowly at 90, and there is a need for me to exam where
I am personally after eight years of single life and nearly three years without
regular employment.
Suddenly the Andean sun breaks through the clouds in an
attempt to cheer me. Heavy white and gray clouds disintegrate to reveal a
brilliant cerulean sky. A single pigeon sits atop the brick toned tiled
roof basking in the rays of sun. Behind me the massive cathedral stands
sentinel over us all. And the twirling girl in the pink dress soars
on.
More photos on Facebook: Photos: 2017 Ecuador to Maine
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My friends Dee & Scott have visited Cuenca a few years now for weeks at a time.
Scott writes for Cuenca High Life and expresses the trials of being 6'6" in a community created by and for smaller people:
Scott writes for Cuenca High Life and expresses the trials of being 6'6" in a community created by and for smaller people:
Dee's photo as we wait for the bus. This sweet Indigenous lady came up to my waist. |
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